of the Compassionate Friends
TCF offers friendship, understanding, and
hope to bereaved parents, siblings, and grandparents.
learned through our own experiences that the death of a child, brother, sister,
or grandchild has caused a pain that is best understood by others who have also
experienced such a loss.
focus on supporting parents, siblings, and grandparents in their journeys
define the terms "parent", "grandparent",
"brother" and "sister" broadly, welcoming the bereaved from
all family units.
TCF believes that bereaved parents,
siblings, and grandparents can help each other towards healing.
understand that each bereaved person will find a unique path through grief.
that expressing our thoughts and feelings is integral to the healing process,
and we focus our help to the bereaved by providing a safe, supportive
environment for such expression
a self-help group and thus do not offer professional psychotherapy or
respect the professional community and welcome its support, however, we do not
rely on the professional community for supervision or formal guidance.
TCF reaches out across society's barriers to
all bereaved parents, siblings, and grandparents.
respect everyone's beliefs and espouse no specific religious or philosophical
welcome parents, siblings and grandparents, grieving the death of a child,
sibling, or grandchild of any age and from any cause.
not charge individual dues or fees for participation in local chapter meetings.
not take sides on political issues or endorse political candidates.
treat each other with care and respect, showing consideration for those with
whom we may disagree.
TCF understands that every member has
individual needs and rights.
never suggest that there is a "correct" way for a parent, sibling or
grandparent to grieve.
joining a local meeting deserves the opportunity to share thoughts and
feelings. However, no one is compelled to do so.
participants at a TCF gathering have the responsibility to listen.
TCF reaches out to the bereaved primarily
through our community of local chapters.
chapters are the bedrock of TCF, and regularly scheduled chapter meetings are
the foundation of our service and support.
meetings are, above all, safe places where thoughts and feelings can be freely
expressed, and where all participants can find care and friendship.
TCF chapters belong to their members.
We treat what is said in chapter meetings as
confidential and privileged information.
We reserve the most intimate segment of
chapter meetings "the sharing session" for those who are bereaved
parents, siblings and grandparents.